TANTRIC SEXUAL ENERGY
THE TANTRA OF SEX
The ideas of Tantric massage come from Tantra - an ancient brand of mysticism that appeared on the Indiant subcontinent thousands of years ago.
Tantra was a method for spiritual growth and expansion of consciousness. It was non-dualistic, that is it did not divide the world into opposing good and bad. Rather, everything was seen in full acceptance as experiences to live through and grow through, by entering everything directly with a mystical approach (not to be confused with "mysterious", mysticism is a method of direct experience rather than philosophy and doctrine)
Tantra never repelled sexuality. It was one of the very few cultures that embraced sex as a large part of us, a part we have to befriend and grow through. Tantra saw sexuality as one of our most potent positive forces, when approached correctly, and while Tantra is not a philosophy based on sex, sex played a big part in its methods.
In this process the Tantrikas explored sexual energy in detail. They found ways to enter it harmonically to make use of this potent resource for our growth and health. And as a by-product this approach gave them expanded sexual states, with unlimited pleasure, fulfillment and love connection between partners.
Tantra in its original form disappeared centuries ago. It merged with Hinduism and adopted some of its elements. It is still practiced as an all-encompasing spiritual discipline in some parts of Asia and by some devoted Westerners.
In the West, however, it was the sexuality vision of Tantra that attracted most attention. Apart from Tao, Tantra was the only culture that offered profound methods to embrace our sex spiritually and to expand it to new horizons from the mediocre sex life that we normally have.
While some teachers of Tantra as a global spiritual path through life remain and assert that Tantra is not about sex, many others are transmitting the sexual message of Tantra, accessible to anyone regarldess of life philosophy and religious views. It is a wide range of practitioners mainly with their own understanding of the pearls of wisdom that survived through centuries. Their methods and approaches vary a lot, in our days there is no unifying authority on Tantric sexuality.
There is a great deal we can learn from the Tantric legacy on sexuality, a great potential to transform our sex life into something much more pleasurable, fulfilling and profound, and in the process let this force have a positive effect on our entire life.
TAO OF SEX
Another great civilisation that brings us a wealth of knowledge on energetic reality of sex is the Chinese. The Chinese Taoists have explored the human bioenergy system perhaps better than anyone else. They have mapped the exact routes of bio-energy in the human body and reached far into explaining how our mental, emotional and physical wellbeing interact in that energy and how the energy is affected by all external and internal factors. The Taoists have reached such heights of knowledge on the subject that their whole medicine is based on influencing the energy and the Chinese treatments such as herbal remedies and acupuncture, based on pure bioenergetic foundations, are now acknowledged by the Western medicine.
The Taoists believe in balance. They do not divide the world into good and bad, they simply see it as a reality of opposing forces. When things are out of balance, things go bad. The Taoists are not moralists, they have simply explored what happens in objective reality and what we can do to be well in this complex world where everything has consequences.
The human energy system, according to Taoists, is in constant flux and interaction with external and internal factors, from emotional problems to the food we eat and the air we breathe. The Taoists noticed early on that sexual energy is a very different breed to our total energy field and that it is a very powerful aspect, the one we really need to pay attention to. So they explored sexual energy in detail.
The Taoist approach to sex was more pragmatic than the Tantric approach. They simply acknowledged that sex plays an important part in our happiness and wellbeing and they got to work exploring how exactly the sexual energy works, what is good for it, what is bad for it, what we can do to keep it healthy, what we normally do to harm it, how we can benefit from this energy and, in the process, have great sex.
The Taoists just observed the objective reality of sexual energy without any moral judgement. They saw some patterns, some laws that govern our sexual energy in this universe, and they explored methods which let us have a great sex life while feeding this energy in a healthy way and getting fed by it to ensure health, creativity, longevity, happiness and satisfaction. What they have discovered is just as true today and it is invaluable knowledge for all of us.
We are energy...
Just like everything else in the universe a human being is energy. At the smallest level the tiniest waves of energy make matter (the physical body) and living activity within it (mental, emotional and spiritual).
Even a brick has a highly organised energetic structure that holds the atoms together and gives it its physical qualities. Naturally, the human energy system is also extremely organised and complex, with a whole spectrum of different frequencies interacting in different processes, from the lifecourse-taking psychic energy of Karl Jung to the basic maintenance lifeforce of chi.
What is sexual energy
Sexual energy is the bioenergetic reality behind all of our sexual moments. Whenever we are sexually active (which can be anything from a light attraction and a slight arousal with a sexual thought to full-blown sex) it is the sexual energy in action. In Tantra they call it Kundalini, in Tao they call it Ching.
This is not to say that our sex organs, the skin, the hormones, our desires, fantasies likes and dislikes are not how our sex happens. They all play an important part. But the picture is not complete here. These are just the most obvious aspects of our sexual being, the buttons and stimuli, the receptors and the mechanics, but they are all connected to the bioenergetic juice of sex, the sexual energy. Sexual energy is not just a flow of electricity through your body. It interacts with all aspects of our sexuality - physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.
We all come from a small ball of sexual energy. A human reproductive cell carries physical material and sexual energy. When we are conceived the human body develops from the DNA and parallel to that all of the complex human energy system comes from sexual energy.
Not all sexual energy is transformed, however. A part of it stays within us to become our own sexual energy and "sleeps" in a reservoir in the groin. This is what we pass on to the new generation all of our sexuality is powered by it.
Sexual energy is very powerful
Few of our aspects are as powerful or as important as sexual energy. Sexual energy is the undying fire that we carry from generation to generation, it gives life to us, it nourishes life through us and it is an engine for human race. It moves us like no other. Ultimately, our search for romantic love, family, sexual experience, sexual attraction is usually at the top of our priorities and ultimately a call of sexual energy.
Sexual energy is a very unusual part of our beings, a very different kind of bio-energy It is a very raw, primordial energy, the seed of life, unrefined and difficult to rule. Anyone will know how hard it can be to resist or cause sexual desire. Many times this ancient force takes over us. It is not like chi, for example, which is a much more refined and "domesticated" frequency of energy and can be manipulated with martial arts or Chi Kung. Sexual energy can be accessed only in a sexual state, any attempts to work with it asexually are fruitless.
What sexual energy can do for us
Sexual energy is a huge creative force. We come from it. It is the mother of all human bioenergies that can feed them all when we care for it and drink from it. Every time the energy expands during a sexual experience into our being, it can be hugely nourishing on all levels, reviving everything and making everything alive.
Obviously, it brings us pleasure and happiness, and much more when we are harmonic with it. But sexual energy is also one of our most powerful resources. Is not just a battery charge for our health, youth and longevity, it is also a psychedelic source that makes a transformative impact on our whole being from the tiniest emotions to spiritual purpose and creativity. This is why in Tantric tradition Kundalini is harnessed for personal growth and creative process and in the Taoist tradition it is an important area of medicine and vitality.
Sexual energy is completely positive, it never does harm. Its function is to create life. We are ecstatic when we bathe in it deeply. The only reason we sometimes suffer in sex is because a sexual experience wasn't harmonic with our sexual energy - through someone else's actions or through our own lack of knowledge and ability to access it.
Sexual energy is an ancient force, it has its own dynamics and universal laws - what nourishes it, what harms it, what helps it flow and what stops it. Not to be confused with human morality laws on sex, this is just the reality in our universe and we don't get to choose it.
Often, however, we are unaware of those realities or demand control over them, blocking the energy and limiting our experiences. We have a lot to gain through getting the right insights and understanding the principles, letting the energy enter us in a harmonic way. It doesn't need to be in conflict with variety, spontaneity, exploration, romanticism, love and desire, we just need to harmonise those with the realities of sexual energy. In fact, there is even more beauty, pleasure and love when we go with the energy and not against it.
When we approach the sexual energy in a way that lets it grow free we don't just uncover a great resource for health, youth, wellbeing, vitality and personal growth. Harmonising with a strong and healthy sexual energy opens great new potentials for pleasure, fulfilling sex life and deep love to our partners.
FEMALE SEXUAL ENERGY
We are used to thinking of the sexual body as mainly just sex organs and erogenous zones. These days we are very informed on how those areas need to be stimulated and what gets us off. We may also add hormonal influences, sexy psychology and "the biggest sex organ of all" - the brain full of images and desires. We normally see it as a game of nerve impulses - from the brain to the sex organs and from the sex organs to the brain.
Quite often it is not fulfilling, because we are just scratching the surface (quite literally). The real lifeblood of sex, the real nectar of a sexual state is awakening of our sexual bio-energy. And when we understand these truths under the surface and we get to know them well, we open a whole new world of pleasure and fulfilment, much greater than simple two-way nerve stimulation.
The Sexual Energy Centre
When a child is conceived, this small ball of sexual energy explodes into a variety of human bioenergies, but some sexual energy stays in its pure form in the groin. This centre corresponds to the two lowest chakras in the Hindu system. The energy is normally low-key and dormant, although strong and healthy sexual energy gives out some constant trickle through our being and brings us feelings of vitality, vibrance and inspiration. This trickle varies in life phases and hormonal cycles. When activated in a sexual experience, the sexual energy warms up and expands, like hot air. This expansion and its movements is what we perceive as arousal, pleasure and orgasm. In the Tantric tradition it is represented by a coiled up snake that wakes up and rises up, a very good metaphor. At the end of the sexual experience it contracts back to its reservoir.
The Heart Energy Centre
This is the primary energy centre of a woman - not more important, it just gets activated first when a woman is in her natural arousal. The heart energy is not sexual, it is emotional, but without it the woman's sexual energy doesn't get full power. This is why a woman normally asks for more tenderness from a man and this is why she is so sensual about her breasts. A woman has to be harmonic with both centres if she wants to get the best out of her sex. Both energies have to blend to create what we know as potent female energy in sex. It is not hard to do and it doesn't take a romantic commitment. Some women get too locked in their heart energy and neglect their female sexual energy in the groin - in other words they are overly romantic and not sexual enough. Other women learn to have sex without emotions, for one reason or another, and they shut off from their heart energy. The result of such imbalances is that you may still enjoy sex but it is nowhere near as good as it can be.
The Flow of Sexual Energy
Like any bioenergy, sexual energy is not just a juice in our body but in our whole being. This means that it flows and interacts on all levels at the same time - physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. All of those are different frequencies of waves and sexual energy permeates them all with its waves too. A physical stimulus will awaken sexual energy, a thought will awaken it, an emotion will awaken it. And in reverse: the sexual energy will warm up the erogenous body, change the colour of emotions and fill the mind.
This is not to say that touching the clitoris doesn't cause orgasm and a fantasy doesn't cause arousal. Everything works together and everything plays a part. But the obvious aspects of our sexuality are just ways to access and express the sexual energy, they are just the routes in and out. We think that a thought caused a physical desire in the groin. In fact, a thought was just a button that activated the sexual energy to expand and wake up the groin. The energy then, if expanded enough, brought on the orgasm expressed partly through the physical body.
Female sexual energy warms up and cools down much more slowly than male energy. The more the energy expands, the longer it is in us and the deeper it gets through our being, the better. Female sexual energy is very powerful and can bring a woman unimaginable heights of full body pleasure when fully expanded. When this energy flows through us well and deep, we reach higher sexual states, with profound pleasure and fulfilment, dimensions of joy and love. The energy revitalises itself and our whole being, shining its goodness for transformation and rejuvenation. When the sexual energy retreats back to the groin it leaves behind some of itself in our organism, and we can feel its goodness for a while to come.
Besides, a woman's well being is much more connected to sexual energy then men's. Even on the physical level the whole of the woman's body is involved, with almost no areas that aren't erogenous, and the mental and emotional states are closely related to sexuality. Woman's sexual energy plays a big part in her life. Not only it is a rejuvenating and cleansing influence that keeps the woman's body in good health, it also has a strong impact on her emotional wellbeing, fullfilment and self-esteem.
Problems with the Flow of Sexual Energy
It is very rare, however, that female sexual energy expands far and to the depth. Like anything else, sexual energy moves in certain conditions, in certain patterns, many factors are important to liberate its flow, and many can block it.
Male energy expands explosively while female sexual energy warms up slowly. In addition, male heart centre is not as active as the woman's. Because of this discord, very often women don't have a chance to truly open their sexual energy with their partners. Men and women both need to learn how to harmonise their differences.
Single women could access their female sexual energy too but many times we don't know important truths and don't do enough to harmonise with our sexual energy, simply because we don't know how to. We restrict our sexual energy ourselves. We stay on the surface, on the nerve stimulation.
Little by little the sexual energy flow is forced into new channels, its flow is weak and distorted and the sexual energy gets used to it. Usually this happens very early in life in the absence of sexual education, and later self-conditioning or trauma can add to this too.
With the right approach and sexual practice women can use their very own sexual energy to wash through this legacy, dissolve the restrictive patterns and find a new empowerment in free-flowing, healthy, strong sexual energy.